While everyone is their own unique beautiful self, there are 5 strong personality traits that you don’t want to exude if you’re looking adult dating site for find singles and want to be successfully dating! If you see yourself in any of these roles, or even a part of yourself them….Do take a few moments to think about what is most important to you and what your ultimate dating goals are.
The Enabler. While a man who is in some type of distress may be easier to snag and keep, you really need to think about what happens when you play the role of the enabler. If you want a man who is an alcoholic, a drug user, a gambler or an emotional mess….you can often find a man who’ll cling onto you and bolt from being your date to your boyfriend before you finish eating dinner. But is this what you want? While it feels good to be needed and many woman love being needed…in the long run you can be dragged down into your mate’s personal Hell…or if he does clean up his act you may be removed along with any reminders of his past problems.
The Man Hater. Man can’t stand when woman have anger toward their ex(s). Why? Because from a man’s point of view… if you hate your exes, you hate the general male population. If you talk about how horrible and rotten your exes were, he will be thinking about what horrible things you may potentially have to say about him one day. In addition, when a woman talks about her exes , even a little bit, most men just can’t help but imagine how they compare and “size up” to them. While the subject can’t be completely ignored, as most people do share a bit of their past once they get to know each other….do keep it short and simple and don’t put down every ex you’ve had since High School. If it didn’t work out because he cheated on you…and the next didn’t work out because he was a drunk…these can both be put under the easy and quick category of “it didn’t work out”. If your date presses you for more…do keep in mind that while his curiosity is driving the question, he does not actually want to hear about how your ex was fantastic in bed, but was lazy in regard to working. The only thing that your date will remember from the conversation is that your ex was fantastic in bed. Don’t’ go there, because once you do, you can’t take the words back. If he keeps asking for details, tell him that you prefer to keep the past in the past.
Drama Queens. Most drama queens don’t know that they are one! They often think “Why do so many odd/strange/weird/embarrassing/horrible, et c things happen to me?” A guy loves to come to the rescue once in a while, but it gets old fast. If you are always having a calamity and life is always in crisis…tell someone else, not your date. And if your life is that out of control, you may find it better to put off dating until things are running smoother. Remember, someone that you are just getting to know does not want to have to be your “knight in shining armor”….he just wants to be your date. Down the road, if you are mutually in love with a great guy and in an exclusive, committed relationship, you should feel free to let him know what‘s going on with you. But middle of the night phone calls about how your addict brother just got arrested again….or dinner conversations revolving around your inability to pay all of your bills is a quick way to lose your date’s interest ….in fact you’ll be lucky if he stays for the entire date.
The Smothering Mothering Woman. Sure, men like to be taken care of…they love a great home cooked meal or a sensual back rub. But they don’t want you tucking in their napkins, telling them to retie their shoes or pointing out how their tie “doesn’t’ quite go with the jacket”. They don’t want their grammar corrected and they don’t even like to be reminded that the car is low on gas. They know the car is low on gas. If a guy sees you more as a “mother” type, he’ll fail to see you as a sexy, tempting, hot, sensual woman that you are.
The Conceited Woman. Okay, you’re beautiful and hot. You know it. He knows it. You don’t have to talk about it or flaunt it to the world. Men love a woman who looks hot….they also love a woman who can have breakfast on the deck, sans makeup….wearing his old shirt and still looking sexy as Hell. Men love to touch a woman’s hair….If you’re using Aussie Freeze on your hair to such a degree that when he goes to run his hand through it, you yell “Don’t ruin the hair style!” and he has to pry his hand out of the glue that is holding it all together….this is not good. Wear that short, sexy dress….but don’t take off your coat in the middle of the restaurant, stick out your boobs, spin in a slow circle , take a “sly” look at who’s checking you out and then sit down. For the love of God, just take off your coat and sit down. If you’re hot, you both know it…and guys are turned off by women who feel that they must flaunt it. If you need other’s validation that you look good…this makes you appear to have self esteem issues. True beauty, inside and out...is shown with confidence with a side of modesty.
Source : Examiner
The Enabler. While a man who is in some type of distress may be easier to snag and keep, you really need to think about what happens when you play the role of the enabler. If you want a man who is an alcoholic, a drug user, a gambler or an emotional mess….you can often find a man who’ll cling onto you and bolt from being your date to your boyfriend before you finish eating dinner. But is this what you want? While it feels good to be needed and many woman love being needed…in the long run you can be dragged down into your mate’s personal Hell…or if he does clean up his act you may be removed along with any reminders of his past problems.
The Man Hater. Man can’t stand when woman have anger toward their ex(s). Why? Because from a man’s point of view… if you hate your exes, you hate the general male population. If you talk about how horrible and rotten your exes were, he will be thinking about what horrible things you may potentially have to say about him one day. In addition, when a woman talks about her exes , even a little bit, most men just can’t help but imagine how they compare and “size up” to them. While the subject can’t be completely ignored, as most people do share a bit of their past once they get to know each other….do keep it short and simple and don’t put down every ex you’ve had since High School. If it didn’t work out because he cheated on you…and the next didn’t work out because he was a drunk…these can both be put under the easy and quick category of “it didn’t work out”. If your date presses you for more…do keep in mind that while his curiosity is driving the question, he does not actually want to hear about how your ex was fantastic in bed, but was lazy in regard to working. The only thing that your date will remember from the conversation is that your ex was fantastic in bed. Don’t’ go there, because once you do, you can’t take the words back. If he keeps asking for details, tell him that you prefer to keep the past in the past.
Drama Queens. Most drama queens don’t know that they are one! They often think “Why do so many odd/strange/weird/embarrassing/horrible, et c things happen to me?” A guy loves to come to the rescue once in a while, but it gets old fast. If you are always having a calamity and life is always in crisis…tell someone else, not your date. And if your life is that out of control, you may find it better to put off dating until things are running smoother. Remember, someone that you are just getting to know does not want to have to be your “knight in shining armor”….he just wants to be your date. Down the road, if you are mutually in love with a great guy and in an exclusive, committed relationship, you should feel free to let him know what‘s going on with you. But middle of the night phone calls about how your addict brother just got arrested again….or dinner conversations revolving around your inability to pay all of your bills is a quick way to lose your date’s interest ….in fact you’ll be lucky if he stays for the entire date.
The Smothering Mothering Woman. Sure, men like to be taken care of…they love a great home cooked meal or a sensual back rub. But they don’t want you tucking in their napkins, telling them to retie their shoes or pointing out how their tie “doesn’t’ quite go with the jacket”. They don’t want their grammar corrected and they don’t even like to be reminded that the car is low on gas. They know the car is low on gas. If a guy sees you more as a “mother” type, he’ll fail to see you as a sexy, tempting, hot, sensual woman that you are.
The Conceited Woman. Okay, you’re beautiful and hot. You know it. He knows it. You don’t have to talk about it or flaunt it to the world. Men love a woman who looks hot….they also love a woman who can have breakfast on the deck, sans makeup….wearing his old shirt and still looking sexy as Hell. Men love to touch a woman’s hair….If you’re using Aussie Freeze on your hair to such a degree that when he goes to run his hand through it, you yell “Don’t ruin the hair style!” and he has to pry his hand out of the glue that is holding it all together….this is not good. Wear that short, sexy dress….but don’t take off your coat in the middle of the restaurant, stick out your boobs, spin in a slow circle , take a “sly” look at who’s checking you out and then sit down. For the love of God, just take off your coat and sit down. If you’re hot, you both know it…and guys are turned off by women who feel that they must flaunt it. If you need other’s validation that you look good…this makes you appear to have self esteem issues. True beauty, inside and out...is shown with confidence with a side of modesty.
Source : Examiner
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